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athenaltenaI don't want to be the person at college who never comes out of their room, but it might just be in my nature. Later on I'm going to talk to my RA (who seems really nice) and basically say "Help! I suck at this social stuff! Only child! From a small town! Gay! Too mature! Where can I find people like me?"
Really, it's astounding to me how (the girls especially) just form these packs spontaneously. I need some time to get to know people, and unfortunately the person I connected most with during orientation is in Spain for a year. *headdesk* I did meet a nice girl at the bookstore, and I think she picked up the deer-in-headlights look of mine and invited me to come with the reception thing at the Ritz tonight. Nice kid. :)
Well, I have a rough idea, which I have a feeling the RA will help me with:
1. JOIN CLUBS. Getting involved with something (theater, mock trail, or softball -- I haven't decided what or which of those to pursue yet, though all of those look fun).
2. Try to start conversations. Which I suck at, and I feel like an idiot when I do.
3. Get out of the room. Yeah, I know that part, but the trick is finding events that don't involve alcohol and/or drugs, which Suffolk doesn't allow anyway, but Suffolk is good about putting those on for kids like me. The 90s themed party the other day in the basement was actually pretty fun, though it wasn't the sort of place where I felt comfortable reaching out to people there since it was loud and dark.
4. Find hang out spots. Preferably where the gays hang out.
5. Meet upperclassmen. I'm probably going to end up in the same situation as high school, where most of my friends were older than me. This is probably due to maturity level and the fact that if you want to get technical I'm really a sophomore.
6. Just see what people are like. It doesn't look like my roommates will fall into the "friends" category, though I get along with C and can (for the moment) tolerate K, assuming she doesn't do any more shit like last night and that guy stays the hell away from me. C's friends seem nice, though, so I could put up with them in theory.
7. Find boys. No, not like that. My general interests/mindset/way of dressing in general makes it so I often end up hanging out with the male side of the population, which I like. One kid on our floor named Nass has a shared interest in video games, so maybe we can trade systems or something, my PS2 for his N64. Then of course the issue is making it clear that I'm not flirting with him, so the lesbian thing might be something I want to get out of the way fast.
I think in all I just take more time at this than most people, and once classes and clubs start it'll be easier, though I want to scream "WHY CAN YOU PEOPLE MAKE FRIENDS SO QUICKLY?!" from time to time. But I guess it's just a matter of finding like-minded people.
Really, it's astounding to me how (the girls especially) just form these packs spontaneously. I need some time to get to know people, and unfortunately the person I connected most with during orientation is in Spain for a year. *headdesk* I did meet a nice girl at the bookstore, and I think she picked up the deer-in-headlights look of mine and invited me to come with the reception thing at the Ritz tonight. Nice kid. :)
Well, I have a rough idea, which I have a feeling the RA will help me with:
1. JOIN CLUBS. Getting involved with something (theater, mock trail, or softball -- I haven't decided what or which of those to pursue yet, though all of those look fun).
2. Try to start conversations. Which I suck at, and I feel like an idiot when I do.
3. Get out of the room. Yeah, I know that part, but the trick is finding events that don't involve alcohol and/or drugs, which Suffolk doesn't allow anyway, but Suffolk is good about putting those on for kids like me. The 90s themed party the other day in the basement was actually pretty fun, though it wasn't the sort of place where I felt comfortable reaching out to people there since it was loud and dark.
4. Find hang out spots. Preferably where the gays hang out.
5. Meet upperclassmen. I'm probably going to end up in the same situation as high school, where most of my friends were older than me. This is probably due to maturity level and the fact that if you want to get technical I'm really a sophomore.
6. Just see what people are like. It doesn't look like my roommates will fall into the "friends" category, though I get along with C and can (for the moment) tolerate K, assuming she doesn't do any more shit like last night and that guy stays the hell away from me. C's friends seem nice, though, so I could put up with them in theory.
7. Find boys. No, not like that. My general interests/mindset/way of dressing in general makes it so I often end up hanging out with the male side of the population, which I like. One kid on our floor named Nass has a shared interest in video games, so maybe we can trade systems or something, my PS2 for his N64. Then of course the issue is making it clear that I'm not flirting with him, so the lesbian thing might be something I want to get out of the way fast.
I think in all I just take more time at this than most people, and once classes and clubs start it'll be easier, though I want to scream "WHY CAN YOU PEOPLE MAKE FRIENDS SO QUICKLY?!" from time to time. But I guess it's just a matter of finding like-minded people.
